This can be a rather controversial post as it's a delicate topic which may cause offence to some. Not because of what I have to say but because of some situations described which cause me distress and emotional pain.
I discovered my sexuality and decided to expose it and come public about it.
While most of my friends accepted it very well and gave me all the support, mainly my male friends, others started to criticise and ridicule me. My wife in fact came out very opinionated about it and expressed herself in a rather aggressive way.
I never thought I would feel the pain of being treated as an outcast and this made me grow a bit and understand the pain other minorities may feel. Being out of the mainstream is painful and it's exhausting and I understand why so many of us try to keep a low profile and in the most extreme cases, try to stay away from the so said "normal" society.
It's the questioning, the doubts that come to people's mind, the lack of understanding, the strange scenarios that people creates and most of all the jokes. It's painful to see that for some people everything is a joke, everything is solved with a stupid laugh and a pat in back along with the words "forget about it". Having to answer to all of these questions and doubts without snapping is exasperating. It's almost like having the obligation to explain how the world is going to work from now on. I don't know how it's going to be, I don't have all the answers I just know what I feel.
The purely straight white man is actually a privileged being with all their acquired rights. From a purely straight white man everything is accepted as normal and no questions asked. No straight white man needs to explain how the world is going to "work from now on", because it's going to be like it always has been, that's the norm, that's the right.
Now for a polyamorous man like myself, who feels that could give love to more than one woman, everything turns into chaos and nothing is right. Imagine coming home and telling your wife you found out you are polyamorous and want to share your feelings with another woman... imagine telling your family that form now on there will be another person sharing your table and your bed. Suddenly is like the world is about to end, that your simple act of understanding your sexuality and wanting to express it will be the beginning of the apocalypse. It won't.
It will just be the beginning of a new life that everyone should accept.
